Understand a wave and then you can feel how this consciousness of waves can help you to enter into an inner meditation. You see waves in the ocean they appear in the inner sense and in deeper sense they will disappear. This is the first thing you understand about the wave. The wave appears it is there in the inner sense but it is not there in a deeper sense. In the inner mind only ocean is there but it is not the wave without ocean. While the wave appear the ocean disappear similarly ocean appear wave disappear. The wave is nothing but a substance. The ocean is substantial the wave is just a form. Each wave have it is own personality unique different from any other. Two waves are not similar. One way may die and other way may rise. While one is dying, another is rising. Both cannot be same because one is dying another is rising. They look separate, they look different, they look individual, but the look is fallacious. We are just waves in a cosmic ocean. Meditate on it; allow this feeling to go deep down within you. While inhale and exhale take a normal breath.
If you think in terms of needing love, that means you are in deep need of being needed. The approach is wrong. For a few days, try to look from the other side. Start loving people take the risk. The sound of running water in the hills can help, because it has its own music. The roaring waves of the ocean can help, because they have their own music. Even if sometimes you make a mistake, if you fall into a relationship with somebody and you repent later on, there is nothing wrong. Get out of it because it is never too late. But just don’t go on sitting there waiting. Start taking the initiative. If you love you will never be miserable. Happiness comes to people who love, unhappiness to people who don’t love. There are many people who are locked inside their own beings and cannot get out and cannot allow anybody to come in and imprisoned. Love that will help you to come out. Allow people to go in, and the other remains open start loving. So even when the lover is there you reaming closed . he can go on knocking on the door, and you have forgotten how to open the door.
Natural sounds never create stress, on the contrary they heal a stressed mind and body. Remember the sound of a cascading waterfall, roaring tidal waves or a battalion of birds holding a twilight meeting in the trees. If you observe closely, natural sounds create their own music. They soothe tired nerves. It’s man-made sound that can be jarring. In ancient books on music two kinds of sounds are mentioned: noise and musical sound. Classical Indian music is said to be inspired by the sounds of the frog, the peacock, and the elephant and so on. Anything that can help from the outside will have some music in it only then can it help. The sound of running water in the hills can help, because it has its own music. The roaring waves of the ocean can help, because they have their own music. The singing of the birds in the morning can help or the sound of insects in the silent night, or the rain falling on the rooftop anything that creates music can also create meditation. The meditation resort is generously strewn with imaginatively placed waterfalls and lily ponds. The waterfalls gurgle from various heights through rocks of different shapes and sizes.
The important practice is the niyamas or observances such as cleanliness, a positive quality which helps us to have a clean mind. Negative thoughts and emotions create pain and ignorance. Ignorance means we forget who we are. We forget the goal of life. Negative thoughts and emotions are usually thoughts which involve I-ness and my –ness. It means the body is no longer so important. For the person of average consciousness, the body is everything. We spend most of the time looking after our body. Every little aspect of the body is overemphasized, the hair, the eyes, the eyebrows, the skin, the nose, the lips, the teeth, the nails, the arms, the feet, the nails etc. the body becomes a monument, the purer we become the less interested we are in the body. They have a fresh start from god. But as we go through life, accumulation takes place in all of us. The body starts to smell. And because the mind is also made of matter, albeit of a subtler frequency, it also starts to smell. With an impure body and an impure mind the sense of taste also becomes impure. The desire to eat meat manifests. Meat actually appears to taste good, because it is served on a nice silver platter with various tools and toys such as table cloth etc.